Community Candles

September 17, 2007 - 7:59am

In the late 90's, when we were planning our first building, we decided against pews, pulpits, and most of the things that mark usual places of worship. We were used to somewhat casual settings, having worshipped in a home, a daycare center, a fire station, a bar, and an elementary school. It's not that we didn't recognize the value of sacred spaces. We just had some different ideas about how sacred spaces might look.

Yes, a bar. It was the Duckblind Lounge, and I'll warrant we were the only Baptist church meeting in a bar at that time.

In the end we opted for a large room with moveable chairs and a fireplace at one end. We had in mind a kind of "retreat center" look and feel.


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We did have a couple of actual fires in the fireplace during worship in the early days. The unwritten but understood rule was: "If you want a fire, bring wood and build one. But you have to clean up the fireplace afterwards."

That second part of the equation slowed down the fires quite a bit.

I don't remember when I put the candles in the fireplace, but it must have been sometime in 2001. I brought a candle rack and laid it on top of the heavy, iron bars that held the firewood. Since then we've had a fireplace full of candles. For years we bought matching sets of candles, and I must say that they looked very nice.

But recently I noticed that my candle cabinet was full of odds and ends. There were candle stubs from this season or that, unused candles, candles from weddings and parties, and some candles I'd never seen before. I don't even know how they got there. So I loaded up the fireplace with a variety of candles from our past. Different colors, different shapes, some kind of new and others almost used up.

I thought it looked rather nice, myself. It kind of reminded me of looking out into the congregation on a Sunday morning.

I few weeks ago I invited the children of our church to bring a candle from home and put it into the fireplace. "You could have your own candle," I said. So candles started appearing. The first was Madeline's candle. Madeline, who just turned four, has rather captured my heart these days. But then, I was a little vulnerable, having realized that there are no more little girls in my own home. Sloan brought the next candle, then Anna brought one.

Yes, this is the same Anna from my CC essay, "The Gospel According to Anna." You can view the actual manuscript of Anna's gospel here. Don't miss the footnotes.

Next appeared a candle that had been owned by Barbara, who died a couple of years ago. Then some candles from a wedding showed up. I added a pink candle stub from Advent 1997 that I had been saving in my office. With all of this new activity, I thought I'd better keep a photographic log.


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Honestly, I had no theological reasons for putting candles in our fireplace. Like much that I do, I was just following a whim. BUT, as I am watching the fireplace change, it does occur to me that the candles in our fireplace make up a splendid symbol of our community. They come in all shapes and sizes. Some burn brightly, while others slowly flicker and die out. Each one appears in its own time and for its own reasons, and all of them contribute to the whole.

The body of Christ.

rlp

 

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 8:46am.

Good posting. Makes me think of candles burning at a church in Waco when I had my first kiss. (Yes, it was in college - I was a late bloomer).

Now I feel like I'm burning my candle at both ends while my wick burns down!

Josh

Submitted by The Token Catholic on September 17, 2007 - 8:51am.

It just ain't a church without candles... ;)

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Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 10:02am.

A baptist church meeting in a bar???
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT.

By the way, I also love your analogy about the candles
representing the people in the congregation....

I haven't been to any church lately, but if I could ever
make my lazy heathen butt get out of bed early on Sunday
mornings, maybe I could have my own candle at your place.
It would be the one with just a hint of a flicker left in it.
Shalom to you Preacher,
Nancy in San Antonio

Submitted by rlp on September 17, 2007 - 1:12pm.

You bring the candle and I'll light it every Sunday morning, whether you're there or not. Think about that.

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 2:00pm.

I will think about it. :)

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 10:16am.

I often find that things I feel moved or called to do "on a whim" more often than not lead to a sense of peace or a new spiritual insight that I didn't have before. Sounds like the candles may be the same for you.

It's refreshing and reassuring to hear that you're doing things like this. In my experience, church leaders often frown upon following instincts and whims, telling people to follow old rules and traditions instead of making spirituality a personal, private, enriching affair. I'd love to see more people follow your example.

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 10:49am.

Where does tradition come from? I think it comes from someone's whim.

Michael

Submitted by rbarenblat on September 17, 2007 - 12:35pm.

Oh, beautiful.

One of the things I love about the blogosphere is that now I feel a little bit like I'm picking up some of the light from your community's candles, if you know what I mean.

***
"Why write unless you praise the sacred places?" -- Richard Howard

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 2:09pm.

I was raised Roman Catholic. I've traveled the theological continuum from center to left but always have appreciated one of the pieces of by upbringing that I've kept. People need physical reminders of their history, their community, their faith. It's not all head stuff. Catholics call is sacraments. Engaging all my senses in my faith is important.

I may use this idea in my RE program.

jennifer in Syracuse

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 3:31pm.

This is an awesome day for excellent posts.

(You might appreciate this one on the creative process: http://matociquala.livejournal.com/1215185.html It's from Elizabeth Bear's log - she's a professional writer.)

That photo reminds me a lot of the interior of the church I occasionally go to. The one I'm thinking of is a Unitarian church, but I go there for the pagan gatherings. I dislike pews and such. This way definitely feels friendlier and more connected with the rest of the group. :)

- Ariel

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 4:18pm.

Beautiful! No more words, only a full heart and tears...

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 7:55pm.

oh you should check out Quest Church cum cafe (http://eugenecho.wordpress.com/). while they don't have a fireplace, which i think makes your place so comfy and warm (the candles are great!), they have a very casual and cosy setting. they're doing some reno work now though. don't know how it will turn out.

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 17, 2007 - 8:12pm.

I have a candle that means a lot to me, but that i cant bear to look at anymore...maybe i should send it in. I'd rather bring it to you of course, but I fear I'm several hundred or thousand miles away. But i love the idea. It makes me smile to think that people like you really do exist.

Submitted by rlp on September 18, 2007 - 12:43pm.

Covenant Baptist Church
19204 FM 2252
San Antonio, Texas 78266

You send it. I'll light it on Sundays until it is gone.

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 18, 2007 - 5:29pm.

Once things calm down enough, I'd like to send a candle to you too, if that's ok. (I'd bring it personally, but again, I'm a bit too far away to do so.) When I was a little girl, my grandma told me that when you light candles for other people, saints and angels see it and pray for you. As long as the candle stays lit, they'll keep praying. That idea always brought me a lot of comfort.

While things aren't bad for me right now, I'm going through some transitions (new job, moving out of state) while maintaining a very long distance relationship and worrying for my significant other. (Cathartic rant here, if you're interested: http://kiji-kat.livejournal.com/390561.html) The thought of having one of my candles in a sacred place for a while makes me very much at peace. If you don't have the room, I understand, but it would be great if you did.

-Kiji

Submitted by rlp on September 19, 2007 - 11:34am.

send it with a short note about who you are. I'll light it every Sunday. And say a prayer for you when I do.

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 22, 2007 - 9:56pm.

I will most certainly do that. Thank you very much - I feel a bit better already. :)

-Kiji

Submitted by Larry Vaughan on September 17, 2007 - 9:07pm.

I loved this post. I loved more that you guys spent time in a bar (First Baptist Bar and Grill). When you were at the bar was there a cover charge or did you just take up an offering? The picture of the meeting room made me feel comfort. Surely the course of my life will lead me to Texas.

Submitted by rlp on September 18, 2007 - 12:45pm.

Well, in honesty, bar is a pretty harsh description. It was part of a neighborhood community center/country club/whatever you want to call it. But it was a bar. There was the classic mirror behind it, beer bottles on display, and a happy hour sign. so...

We paid them a monthly few to use the place, and the bar was the only practical meeting space in it.

Submitted by Jenny Valent on September 18, 2007 - 6:57am.

It's always refreshing for me to see a church that does something new, and, better yet, doesn't need a lengthy theological reason for doing so.
The church I currently attend is in an uproar over whether to reconfigure the chancel area to allow for more choir members...some bullshit about how to keep the space "holy"...last time I looked, "holy" is what you make holy, ain't it?

And the reward for doing something new for no particular reason? Ah, you are taught the parable of the candles AFTER the fact...now, ain't that COOL?

Grace and peace to you and yours, Gordon!

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Submitted by smpuckster on September 18, 2007 - 7:57am.

I like it, Gordon. What a neat picture of the church family.

Peace.

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Submitted by Anonymous User on September 18, 2007 - 8:09am.

We light small votive candles for each person who has died during the previous year on All Saints Day in November. Since the "we" I speak of is a retirement community where I am chaplain, there are usually a lot of lights up there on the altar. But I like the idea of lighting them before you're dead too...

Harper

Submitted by Anonymous User on September 21, 2007 - 9:20pm.

Your candle story is more uplifting than mine. (http://mississippirawfootage.blogspot.com/2007/08/all-fired-up.html) Not much in common between the two posts besides the candles. Thanks for reminding me all that church really can be if we let it.

Jennifer

Submitted by Adrian Smith on September 22, 2007 - 12:41am.

It's for pieces like this that I read your blog. A simple yet powerful message. I have put this on our church website at St. Andrew's in Taunton UK, (as you kindly gave me permission to do this a while ago). We have candles in our church, and beautiful they are too, but now I will be seeing them in a new way, and thinking about your fireplace.

God bless.

Adrian