What's Up With Me

April 23, 2006 - 4:33pm

It's strange, but I feel a little disconnected from Real Live Preacher. I haven't been in the chatroom in quite awhile. The regulars have probably noticed, though I never stay that long anyway. I've neglected answering emails, so I have an inbox full of them. I'm usually pretty good about staying on top of that, but I haven't been diligent over the last two weeks.

I've been avoiding Real Live Preacher a little. The reason is that one of my daughters is going through a hard time, and Jeanene and I are right in the middle of that hard time with her. In the old days I probably would have written about this. But one of the sad things about having a lot of people read my blog is that I have to be a little more careful with what I reveal about my family. Most of our close friends, church members, and family read rlp, and I need to respect my daughter's privacy.

I can tell you this: You don't need to worry very much about us. This is a hard issue now, but it will not be one that follows us around for a long time. At least I don't think so. And the issue at hand has nothing to do with our relationship with our daughter. We are as close as ever. But if I seem a little distant over the next week or two, or if my postings are erratic, or if I disappear for a few days, you'll know that life is demanding much of me.

Thanks,

gordon

Submitted by Anonymous User on April 23, 2006 - 5:23pm.

I had wondered if things were okay. Thanks for checking in. My husband and I have gone "thru things" with our youngest daughter so I know that special demands of being a family can absorb just about everything at times. Prayers are with you all. Lissa

Submitted by Jim Sturges on April 23, 2006 - 7:08pm.

Gordon, our prayers are with you and your family. You're doing the right thing by paying attention to those who matter most.

Submitted by woundedhealer on April 23, 2006 - 7:33pm.

Prayers for you, Jeanene, and your daughter - wisdom, love, and grace.

WH

Submitted by spidey on April 23, 2006 - 8:04pm.

we've missed you, but good for you for being the dad who is THERE. that is huge.

Submitted by reverend mommy on April 23, 2006 - 8:56pm.

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Submitted by Anonymous User on April 26, 2006 - 6:40am.

recognise that sign ...

and add mine (o)

prayers and love to you and your family

Submitted by textjunkie on April 23, 2006 - 9:52pm.

Good on you for protecting your daughter!! ::hugs::

Submitted by Big Simon on April 24, 2006 - 1:37am.

We're still gonna be here, Preach. No worries. Take care of your family and write when you can. God's best to all of you.

Submitted by Anonymous User on April 24, 2006 - 3:15am.

Dearest Gordon,

Oh if only I could have a dad like you. You are being what you need to be - a good dad and you are where you need to be - with your family.

We will watch and pray with you.

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Submitted by dcypl on April 24, 2006 - 4:25am.

rlp,

Thanks for the update, these times take us out of our routine and impact all we do. Later you'll be able to look back and say we were there as a family through that. And your girls will love you all the more for it.

Our prayers for you...
Dcypl and family.

Submitted by abiding on April 24, 2006 - 6:47am.

Praying for you, Jeanene and the sisters...

Submitted by Lirazel on April 24, 2006 - 7:09am.

My dad wrote me a poem when I was going through my "difficult times". He was extending the famous poem by Kahlil Gibrahn that begins, "Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself."

I won't bore everyone with my dad's attempts at poetry, but I will share the gist, which is that when they are young, our children consume us, but when they are older they turn inward and begin to consume themselves, so that they can eventually emerge from the chrysalis of adolescence. And also, how hard it is as a parent to support this process of self-transformation.

If I remember properly, it all resolved into, "The greater the anguish, the stronger the mensch..."

Submitted by jeremyca on April 24, 2006 - 3:28pm.

Then we shall offer up prayers for you and your family. Know that you are in my thoughts.

Submitted by Alice in Wonderbread on April 24, 2006 - 6:17pm.

Hi Gordon:
You have your priorities spot on. If this one is in the coming-of-age phase, she needs her daddy very much right now, especially to be an example of how to prioritize actions, value herself as she does as she watches you balance as well. By placing her needs in front of your PC chat time, you are making a powerful statement that she is very important (even if, as was with me growing up, she exclaims she doesn't need you. She does, more than ever).

Submitted by mu on April 24, 2006 - 7:12pm.

we're not going anywhere, and we wouldn't think as much of you if you DIDN'T make your family a priority over a website. prayers to you and yours.

Submitted by Anonymous User on April 25, 2006 - 6:11am.

I just discovered your site yesterday and must say that it is a refreshing wellspring. I will pray for your daughter and your family...

Submitted by phlipside on April 25, 2006 - 7:50am.

Gordon,
As a youth minister and a father let me echo what your heart already has told you. You are where it is most important for you to be. Know that my prayers are with you.
Peace
Jay

Submitted by Anonymous User on April 27, 2006 - 3:03am.

hey preach praying for your family, got a kid sis myself and have had to go thru tough time swhen dad was away,

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Submitted by Anonymous User on April 28, 2006 - 5:40pm.

I hope things work out the best way that they can for you and your daughter. My oldest, Lorelei, just turned 13 recently so we are thick in the midst of a lot of hard stuff, too. Every day she comes home with a pile of it, and we sort through it all, separating truth from fiction, honesty from the myriad soul-crushing things that kids throw at each other sometimes for no other reason than to get a bit of a reaction. She has all her cards on the table, so to speak, so she's easy pickings for the mean ones. I hope your daughter's situation is less relentless than this, but whatever it is, I know you'll all be fine. In the end, she has parents that care immensely and try really hard, and that makes a huge difference in just about everything.

~Melanie Teegarden, aka Althaea

Submitted by Anonymous User on April 30, 2006 - 6:39am.

God Bless you and your family--and special blessings to you for being such a great dad!!

Diane
www.prayingforaprodigal.blogspot.com