I'm Back

February 8, 2007 - 10:09am

"Hey, I'm back!" he yelled to no one in particular.

You know how it is when you go out of town. Three days feels like 10 days, but the people back home have been living their normal lives. Three days feels like one day for them. "What, you were gone?" Hell yes I was gone. Gone to Georgia. GORDON Georgia. This probably is indicative of an unhealthy attachment to my blog, but I missed you guys. I miss my blog friends when I'm gone. And if I blog from the road, which I did, it feels like I called you on the phone. Not the same as blogging from home.

Seriously, I know how twisted that is, and I'm probably going to need some serious therapy and psychoanalysis someday, but can't I just enjoy the feeling for now and get help later? Don't you kind of feel that way about blogs? Like they're real? You know they're not real relationships, but they can feel so real. You know?

As I've said, I think of you as roughly 50 people. A room full of friends who know your name.

So, the retreat. Um, I can't talk about it yet. I went supposedly to help lead this retreat thing, only the ministers there were so bright and cool and engaged and open and thoughtful. It was kind of embarrassing to think of leading anything with these people. So, I just let the conversations happen and tried to stay out of the way, while leading just enough so that no one would say, "Why the hell did we fly this guy all the out here from Texas?"

It was a powerful and sad (the good kind of sad) few days for me. I'm going to post a group picture if the person who took it emails it to me. When the picture arrives, I'll look at these people whom I came to love but may never see again. I'll look at them, and then I'll be ready to talk about what happened to me there.

But for now, let's talk about Gordon, Georgia. I took lots of pictures. Rural Georgia has the same feel as rural East Texas. We in Texas consider East Texas to be its own place, almost its own state. It has a more southern feel to it. So I felt rather at home in Gordon, but it was strange to drive around town and see my name everywhere.

  


Gordon United Methodist was a classic small town church.
I wanted you to see it.

Okay, let's talk food. There were a couple of places in Gordon where I ate. The Huddle House, which I mentioned before, and a little place called, The Chicken House. The "house" theme seems popular for restaurants in Georgia. The food at The Chicken House was country, very bad for you, and wonderful. What can I say? I like butter and fried stuff. Whaddya gonna do?

I had a classic Chicken House breakfast. Butter with some grits floating in it, and a biscuit with sausage inside. I drank sweet tea for breakfast. Hey, when in Rome...


Yes, that much butter.
The grits didn't do much for me, but the
biscuit and tea were amazing.

I was charmed by the local Piggly Wiggly. I haven't seen one of those in years. In my part of Texas, they've been driven out of business by larger grocery chains. Inside the store were a variety of foods I had not seen before. I must have looked like the ultimate city slicker, walking around taking pictures of everything.


I thought the Bunny Bread was cute.


I don't think I want to know
what sulphured molasses is.


It doesn't look like chewing tobacco has changed
much in the last, I don't know, 50 years.

I found Georgia to be charming all around. I mean, I was hanging out with very cool people and looking at everything with eyes that only see the goodness. To be honest, I think almost every new place is charming.

I had one last good southern meal in the Atlanta airport. I've been in this airport quite a few times, so I knew that Paschal's is not your average airport food. If you are ever flying out of Atlanta, I highly recommend it. It's not The Chicken House, mind you, but it's pretty good.


For the uninitiated, that's black eyed peas, green
beans, chopped steak, rice, PLENTY of gravy,
cornbread, and - of course - peach cobbler.
(see the bottom of the Styrofoam cup? Sweet tea!)

rlp

 

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 10:29am.

Gordon,
There is no way to tell you what an incredible retreat (un) leader you were, so I won't try but hope that everyone can read between the lines.

As for Paschal's, the original Paschal's was a favorite of Martin Luther King; one could almost say it "fed" the Civil Rights Movement because so many strategy sessions and planning meetings took place there over lunch. You can hear more here: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1358549

You touched a part of Atlanta history by eating at the airport Paschal's...and you touched all of our lives by feeding us on retreat.

Blessings,
Landa

Submitted by spidey on February 8, 2007 - 12:04pm.

You're not crazy, rlp. I get the same way about blogs. There's a certain blog or two that I really enjoyed that haven't been updated in eons, and I really miss the guys who wrote at those blogs. *looks for PBJ and Digory...* And I feel disconnected when I haven't posted to mine. A bit weird, maybe, but you're not the only one!

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 12:06pm.

rlp:

I love the details you captured about Gordon. It takes a writer's eye and heart to notice the Bunny bread!

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 12:34pm.

As a Georgia native and RLP fan, I appreciate the cultural notes of your trip. I am also looking forward to the description of your meetings. We missed you too!

danutz - http://danutz.blogspot.com

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 1:00pm.

RLP
I was at the retreat with you and 27 other clergy in Gordon (your namesake) and returned home excited and moved. Our conversations and engagement about authenticity and honesty in ministry and our daily lives was eye-opening. Your willingness and bravery to share who you are and what you have gone through to get to this place and time, allowed everyone else to have the space and opportunity to consider our own faith journeys. Your courage gave us courage. The first things I did upon getting back was to share the story of the retreat with my family, staff, and friends. What a blessing you and your family and congregation are to us all, beginning with the One who Created and Creates!
Shalom,
James

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 1:11pm.

I just finished eating lunch, but the picture of the Paschal's food made me hungry all over again!

Curt in KC

Submitted by Hook on February 8, 2007 - 1:21pm.

rlp,

I love Paschal's. I eat there often when I fly out of Atlanta, which seems pretty often these days. Their catfish is great too. I love catfish. Reminds me of my youth; fishing all day, bringing home a catch, freaking my mom out when she found catfish swimming in the kitchen sink before we cleaned them. Those things live forever. Good thoughts.

Peace
Hook

Submitted by dont eat alone on February 8, 2007 - 2:48pm.

Gordon

Having married into an Alabama family, I've decided there is a "Southern Paradox" with food the same way the French Paradox says the red wine balances out the fat in the diet: the sweet tea balances out the fried food.

Peace,
Milton

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 3:22pm.

The piggly wiggly has been driven out by OTHER larger chains... now is that a shot at H-E-B? I'm catching kind of an anti H-E-B vibe....

Submitted by rlp on February 8, 2007 - 3:47pm.

Since my daughter is an employee of HEB, I can neither confirm nor deny that I was thinking of Satan when wrote that...er... HEB. HEB when I wrote that.

Nah, just kidding. HEB is fine. I shop there all the time. Of course, where else could I shop since it's now the ONLY GROCERY STORE IN TOWN!!!!

I meant that in a nice way.

Seriously, HEB is a great organization, and they are very good to their young employees, which is a very important thing. They have kind of an HEB family thing going on.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 4:13pm.

Well not too long ago they had Albertsons, and they lasted awhile. But alas they too have been driven out by the beast (H-E-B).

The only thing that I really dont like about H-E-B is that they sell THIER knockoff products but they put them in packaging that looks EXACTLY like the real McCoy. So I get home and find out I just bought a case of H-E-B Dr. Pepper instead of the real thing, and I dont care what anyone says, I can tell the differance.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 3:52pm.

Shouldn't Paschal's be serving lamb? :-)

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 4:17pm.

Welcome back!

[one of the fifty people]

Submitted by Mary L on February 8, 2007 - 4:47pm.

Glad you had fun! Glad you're back!

And glad to know where I'll be spending some time during a four hour layover in Atlanta airport next month. Thanks for the tip on Paschal's

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 5:15pm.

Glad to know you made it home! Patrick and I had a ball showing you around the town of Gordon (not that there's much to see). Thanks for coming to Georgia-for being yourself and allowing us to be ourselves as well! For those wondering, showing Gordon around and watching him take pictures of everything is kind of like being with Borat. (LOL) Call if your ever in Athens (Athens, GA).

Courtney

Submitted by msog85 on February 8, 2007 - 5:34pm.

Is there not sweet tea in your part of Texas? I don't know how you can survive...

Submitted by Keith on February 8, 2007 - 5:43pm.

The grits didn't do much for you?

With that much butter, a shoe would do it for me.

Submitted by rlp on February 8, 2007 - 5:53pm.

Yes, one would think so. I did spoon some of the butter onto my biscuit.

Submitted by Pensieve on February 8, 2007 - 7:03pm.

Ok.....I'm a Georgia girl, sweet peach to the pitt (or something like that).

OF COURSE bloggers totally "get" what you were saying about being away. It's everyone else who thinks we're insane.

Loved that you were charmed, but I have to burst your bubble. I have NEVAH seen grits swimmin' in that much butter, I think my cholesterol just doubled lookin' at the pics.

A favorite sweet tea story of mine--I used to work for a retirement community in SC. Two ladies from NYC were considering our property and we always treated guests to lunch. They asked me to order first (to get an idea of what was good). I asked for "sweet tea" and in unison, both ladies asked "What's sweettea?"

I forget sometimes we speak a different language, and apparently a unique cuisine.

Welcome home.

Submitted by rlp on February 8, 2007 - 7:42pm.

Yeah, I didn't assume that grits were eaten with that much butter statewide. Otherwise you'd be the angioplasty capital of the world.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 7:17pm.

Well, I too 'fed' at the Retreat (un)led by the original real live preacher. It was a time for others who claim preacher status to share our vulnerability and our passion for God's truth in our lives. Thank you, Gordon. You are now one of us and welcome at the table at which we are fed and before which we are humbled any time, though the sour dough bread and grape juice -- what no wine???-- may not rival the fried chicken and peach cobbler found elsewhere. (And I too will now weep when I hear 'Be Thou My vision" after reading your words and remembering your tears of joy before the mystery.) Ya'll come on back, ya here.Linda

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 8, 2007 - 7:56pm.

Bunny bread was made for years about 2 miles from the house where I grew up - and I still pass the old bakery every day of my life. That bakery was the first job my Dad ever had. I knew the President of Bost/Bunny bread, and still know several members of the original Bost family. Those people were as good as any in the world. Still are.

Glad you're back. Look forward to reading about it.

Submitted by axegrinder on February 8, 2007 - 10:14pm.

I'd like to make a suggestion about grits.

I grew up in Atlanta. My parents still like genuine Southern food. My maternal grandmother was a wiz in the kitchen. Apple pies were her specialty.

I never got into Southern cooking as a kid. When I went off to college I tried cheese grits and was forever converted. I like plain grits now, but give me cheese grits with a dash of Tabasco and I am your friend.

May you, too, embrace the mouth-watering goodness of cheese grits.

Jason Kranzusch

Submitted by The Token Catholic on February 9, 2007 - 1:44am.

I had grits for the first time, when my fiance and I made Rev. Mommy's shrimp and grits (a.k.a. "heart attack in a bowl") for Christmas. Delicious stuff. Seems like I can only find the instant kind of grits in the PacNW, although I've seen organic, cruelty-free grits at Whole Paycheck. I should take a picture of the bin's sign next time. I'm not sure how you can be cruel to corn. Insult its mother? Tell a corn plant it's worthless?

http://bigumuse.blogspot.com

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 9, 2007 - 5:07am.

What are grits? (A very naive english girl . . .)

Submitted by rlp on February 9, 2007 - 8:19am.

You're not naive. You're just not from here. Every culture seems to have its own weird foods. You know, like steak and kidney pudding or haggis.

http://www.grits.com/discript.htm

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 9, 2007 - 7:55am.

RLP,

Most of the posts above are relatively light, so sorry for the more serious/questioning post. You wrote, "You know they're not real relationships..." What is the difference between a blog and the way people wrote to each other for years prior to the telephone? Madison and Jefferson come to mind ...

Dave

Submitted by rlp on February 9, 2007 - 8:23am.

Yeah, that was a bad way to say that. I retract that statement. I was writing rather casually. I think that any kind of relationship that has no face time cannot be a full relationship. Then again, just because you have face time doesn't mean you have a relationship. I see my neighbor all the time, but I have a hard time remembering her name.

I think there is a hard ceiling to how far a relationship can go online or by the phone. Or in letters. Face-to-face relationships have so much more potential.

Submitted by DSpitko on February 9, 2007 - 12:13pm.

I agree that there generally is greater potential for a more complete relationship with face-to-face. But because of my belief in your honesty, I feel that I have come to know you and I enjoy the relationship that does exist, such as it is, that we have through your blog. I also have a relationship with others on this blog that I recognize.

As much as I love the written word, I enjoy both writing and reading as a method of communication. In a way, and sometimes, it has the capacity to be deeper than a face to face conversation. Sometime more thought can be given it ...

I guess all I was saying is that I do not think your missing us, or us missing you, is to be unexpected. Our communications are part of our day to day experience. Peace.

Dave

Submitted by DSpitko on February 9, 2007 - 7:56am.

Sorry - forgot to log in. The post above is me.

Dave

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 9, 2007 - 10:19am.

As a (nearly) lifelong Georgian, it's amusing to see scenes and food from my everyday life through the eyes of a "foreigner" (albeit a southern foreigner). It gives me a new appreciation for many things I love so much but take for granted. Thank you, and glad you enjoyed your visit. Come back now, y'heah?

Travis

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 12, 2007 - 7:14pm.

no real southerner says "come back now, y'heah." I bet you ain't southern

Submitted by apalumbo on February 9, 2007 - 10:23am.

Welcome back! Grits don't do anything for me either.

I love the way the internet lets you develop really strong friendships with people you've never seen. It's wild. It's almost like you've got a pack of imaginary friends, like you have when you're about 4 years old.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 9, 2007 - 12:33pm.

We are Grateful.
Thanks for attending the retreat. Although you may have some reservations as to how effective your leadership was, please know that it was very important and appreciated. Your honesty led the entire conversation that followed. I think that many of us were encouraged and emboldened to speak truthfully after hearing about your experience in this regard - with each other and with the church. Thank you.
Peace,
Chris McCreight

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 9, 2007 - 1:17pm.

Dude.

Blackstrap Mollases. It's actually GOOD FOR YOU. That jar you pasted there? Grew up with that, parents bought it in the HEALTH FOOD STORES in California.

If you google for it, you'll find a zillion people raving about it's health benefits. I have NO idea what that's about, nor do I care, I just love the stuff.

I can't get it in Helsinki, and it's a real problem. Because you CANNOT describe slow without the phrase "molasses in January" and it DOES NOT WORK HERE, they don't have it.

Anyway. HI! I'd have commented on some other blog entries, the ones that I've read since someone turned me on to your postings. But I didn't have anything to say, other than "Dude." Which, for people my age, is a complete dissertation on how incredibly thoughtprovoking and well written your comments of that day were.

So, hey, just a note also to say thanks.

(And try the mollasses. Yes, THAT one.)

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 10, 2007 - 3:32pm.

I missed you...honest. Very glad you are back. And for the record I have been "friends" with folks I have never met (Robert Coles, Daniel Berrigan (oh ok I know him), Robert McAfee Brown, Barbara Brown Taylor) whose honesty and facility with the written word have delighted and enlighted (ok enlightened) my life. So you are stuck with me--thanks for what you write. I have been ordained l0 years and am slowly getting the hang of it-- with lotsa help from my (book/blogger) friends...Gail

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 10, 2007 - 8:55pm.

When in Rome? But you weren't in Rome - Rome is practically at the other (northwestern) end of the state.

I am a Southern girl, born and raised, and even I have never really enjoyed grits.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 11, 2007 - 1:39pm.

How was the lunch with Jesus? I'd love to know what he's like. I mean, I hope he likes to laugh. Cause I need a Lord he knows how to laugh.

Aaron

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 11, 2007 - 3:47pm.

There is really a place caled the pibbly wiggly?

Submitted by hughman on February 11, 2007 - 6:41pm.

grits grits grits grits. as a original southerner, i LOVE me some grits. people talk about putting sugar on them. GROSS. butter butter and salt.

"wednesday - lunch with jesus" cracked me up. like a blackberry reminder for appointments. "thursday - conference call with buddha"

i'm reading the bible (again). it's the KJVersion which kind of sucks but it's interesting. i tend to sort of make up my own stories as i read. did you know jesus liked fishsticks? i bet he'd like grits too. i "begat" a lot now. i begat dinner, i begat coffee. it's the perfect word that covers a lot of things.

hope you are all well. hugs to the RLPWife and the RLPDaughters. my daughter Polly is fine. her new BFF is a cat. it's weird living with females sometimes.

xxx - roo

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 12, 2007 - 11:47am.

i was raised in the disciples of christ in savannah, georgia. glad you enjoyed your visit. what was the name of the campground?

Submitted by rlp on February 12, 2007 - 3:48pm.

Uh, I think "Camp Christian" was the name.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 12, 2007 - 7:13pm.

Of course you liked Ga. It's the promised land. Glad it didn't get the same review as Seveirville, TN. Now there's a hole...

Submitted by Mary Jo on February 12, 2007 - 11:31pm.

Welcome home Gordon!

I have to say the abundance of sweet tea in the south makes me wish I lived there all of the time. When we find a place up north that serves sweet tea my husband and I fall out of our chairs. Seriously, do people really like unsweetened tea that much? Do they not have sweet tea in your part of Tx? I just naturally assumed all of the south had it. :)

I consider my blog "friends" to be very real to me... even the ones I never comment on, or who have never commented me back. I always says... "this guy/girl I know..." as if I really do.

~ Mary Jo

Submitted by rlp on February 13, 2007 - 11:27am.

some people drink sweet tea here. Not that much. Certainly not like in Georgia.

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 20, 2007 - 9:49pm.

I know this isn't a recent post, but I would've sworn they had Bunny Bread in Houston back in the day. Now I'll have to do some research to check my facts - shari

Submitted by Anonymous User on February 21, 2007 - 11:59am.

Next time you try grits; add at least three teaspoonful of sugar. Works for me. Bojangles makes the best sweet tea. Unsweetened tea is of the devil.

I used to be stationed in Georgia while in the Army. Stone Mountain and Helen (near TN & NC line in western Georgia) are fantastic places to visit.

Larry in NC